Often people refer to the speeches at wedding as tiresome. I disagree these people should stop being grumpy and embrace the speeches for what they are; the chance to say things to people that too often go unsaid. For the listener it is the chance to hear the raw emotions of others and I always feel privileged to be able to hear what has to be said. Here is what I had to say.
I would like to take some time tell you about the three women I love the most. Unfortunately my Granny couldn’t be here today but growing up she taught me how to read, how to play the slots and the importance of an active imagination. My Granny is fun, kind and an evil genius.
My sister India who although younger than me continues to teach me how to be a better person. She has taught me what altruism really is and any ounce of grace and kindness I have I learnt from her.
Last but not least my mum, she taught me the pleasure of learning and . My mum was a single parent so she chose surround me with fascinating people to influence and shape me, but the only person I ever really needed was her. She is the person I aspired to be. She has a strength and resilience I never witnessed in anyone else.
So I’d like you to toast the women that made me who I am today.
Our whole vision for this wedding being so personal rested on the love and support from family and friends so I would like to thank all of you for making this day possible.
There are a few people that I would like to give particular thanks to
o Firstly Pete for your hard work and beautiful music.
o Sara for your wonderful words
o Jan and Rebecca for being troopers this week
o And Des, well we couldn’t have chosen anyone better to marry us
You all made our day really personal.
- Lucy my maid of honour & Becky for being my bridesmaids and keeping me filled with wine this morning
- And India my sister bridesmaid and best friend thank you for being there to discuss all my ideas this past year and for singing so beautifully this afternoon
Planning a wedding makes you very busy and it is easy to forget that you are embarking on a marriage not a wedding day.
When Joe first asked me to marry him I said no. Not because I didn’t love him but I didn’t see why we should, but here we are, so what changed?
You could say it was because I thought about how much he takes care of me. Or that I realised that Joe didn’t love me in spite of who I am but because of who I am. Or that I would never find anyone else to watch that many consecutive hours of anime with me. Whilst they are all valid reasons for marriage they are not why we are here.
The reason we are here today is not to say I love you to one another, it’s to say I love you in front of all of you, in front of everyone else that we love.
I realised, what Joe had been talking about, I understood the importance of a public declaration; it’s saying I think you’re wicked and I love you so that everyone else can hear. There is no greater gift than our capacity to love
So get your drinks ready as I leave you with this message that is true for everyone of you