As children we often have an over zealous parent who is micro managing our play dates and social calendar. Once we are grown up that stops, some of us become those over zealous parents, and the rest of us are just very busy with all of those boring life things. So this leaves us with our social life leaving long pleading voicemails and getting no response from us.
Whilst most of us have friends from those heady days of youth society has changed. The days of living and dying in the same place as we were born in are gone. We move house, we move town, we move jobs, all of this makes it hard to make new friends. We may well think we do not need social interaction or we are far too busy but as evolved as we are we are still primates and we require social interaction. Offline social interaction is vital for our physical and mental well-being.
- Be Bold – I am always telling my eldest to put himself out there just ask people if they want to play if they say yes great if they say no, no big deal. I see so many posts and memes around ‘finding your tribe’ but in truth it is easier said than done. “Hi I see you have a tiny person, me too! Be my friend?” Well it is not far from the truth sometimes you just have to be bold and say hi. I made friends with Kimberly of Swoon Worthy by accosting her in the toilets of an award ceremony, ( it was more innocent that it sounds), now we are good friends.
- Find A Common Ground – One of the things that I realised as an adult is that your friend does not have to be your sun, moon and stars. I have friends that are into craft, friends for heart to hearts, acquaintances, (they are important too). Join a group or take a class the chances are you will meet people who are on your wavelength in at least one aspect of yourself.
- Be The Shepherd – So you cannot find a group or workshop that floats your boat, make one. Yes yes we are all special individuals apart from the fact that we are not that special chances are there will be other people locally just waiting for someone to start a road sign appreciation society. Look for a tutor and find out how much it would be for them to deliver a workshop in your area. If you build it they will come. Brief segway I am sorry for quoting Field Of Dreams as I really hate that film.
- Go Beyond The Gram – Instagram gets a lot of stick, instasham, instawankers, but I have met some absolute superstars on the gram. Yes there are some horror bags on there but there are some horror bags in the world just avoid those ones. Instagram is a resource of complete strangers or should I say potential mates. You already have an obsession with squares to build on and we often follow people who share things we like; food, travel, sustainability. Organise an insta meet in your local area. Be safe make it somewhere public.
So those are my suggestions for friend making. My biggest tip is just go for it chances are everyone else is probably feeling just as shy as you are.