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The sun is not always shining

For those of you ho are regular readers you will have noticed that I have not been here in a while. Well it always sunshine and roses around here. In the past I have shared some posts that deal with matters of heat and soul here and here. I want this to be a positive space but the past few weeks have made me think about how we gain the strength we need to deal with our daily lives. 
I have heard people say to me that life does not give you more than you can cope with. I am not 100% certain that I agree with that sentiment but then the world is filled with stories of people who have shown remarkable strength and resilience. I don’t ever talk about it bu for a long while religion was a huge and very important part of my life. Over time I lost my faith. I would not describe myself as an atheist as I feel that in itself take a great amount of belief. I understand the importance of faith, regardless of our cultural background, sex, age etc we all have a few needs and desires that are the same the world over. We want to be able to make sense of tragedy even when there is no sense to be found. We want to feel safe and secure and for some that is gained by the feeling of being watched over by a loved one who has died or a God.
I don’t have a faith anymore and haven’t for many years now but each day I continue to have times in my life when I need the strength so where does that come from? When I lost my faith it wasn’t so much lost but transferred. I have an undying strength in human spirit. When I had religion I will be honest and say that sometimes when I was at my lowest ebbs I would feel forsaken. Having faith in human spirit does not have that problem. People are fallible but they have the ability to do great things and show amazing grace and kindness. 
I feel that there is endless strength to be taken from the potential of people. Yes we aren’t perfect but we have it inside us to be practically perfect in every way, (yes I did just shamelessly quote from Mary Poppins). Our potential as people gives me the strength to cope with what live throws at me. Well that and the love of of my family and friends.
Where do you find strength?
Take Care Nicolette xo



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    April 6, 2012

    hello, just wanted to send some support your way and hope you find what you need to get through this time 🙂 i am atheist and have been for several years and i know sometimes people don't understand why you don't need a god to rely on when times are tough. like you, i find strength in friends and family, my pets (they always know when you need them to do something goofy to cheer you up don't they!) and just seeing the good that people can do–kindness from strangers towards you or hearing stories of wonderful things people did for others just because it was the right thing to do.

    shitty things happen–but so do good things, wonderful things, funny things, and just plain awesome things. knowing that one of those positive things is bound to be around the corner brings me comfort when i feel like the world just sucks 🙂

    sorry for the rambling–but i wanted you to know you're not alone! cheers.

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    Nicolette Lafonseca-Hargreaves

    April 10, 2012

    Hi Melissa

    Thank you for your support I love when readers reach out and share it means so much to me. I get loads of happiness from my dog who has a default setting of goofy – so that works.

    Take Care
    Nicolette xo

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    Jaclyn Fielden-Russell

    April 11, 2012

    Where do I find faith… Well as a practicing christian who's husband believes in reincarnation and refutes there is a typical heaven and hell scenario waiting for us (did I mention this is the man who I trust more than anything in the world?!?) I have accumulated a pretty big hotch potch of beliefs… My corner stone is an energy that I describe as the holy spirit but I believe it is known by many other names. It is evident in the stranger who smiles at you in the street, in the rainbow that appears on a moody day, the family who love you with all their souls regardless of not sharing a single strand of dna with them, the true love of your soul mate, the face lick from a faithful pet and not forgetting the prayers that get answered by your God(s) and angels.
    I am so sorry you have had a hard time Nicolette, I send you my love and my prayers. X.